Being a mom to a special needs child is… well, it’s a rollercoaster. There are amazing highs and crushing lows, and sometimes, it feels like I’m just trying to hold on tight and not get thrown off completely.
One of the hardest things I’ve had to learn is that life isn’t fair. It’s a tough pill to swallow, especially when I see other kids doing things that my child might never be able to do.
I used to catch myself comparing. “Why can’t my child talk like their kid?” “Why can’t they run and play like the others?” It was a constant cycle of wishing things were different, wishing my child was “normal.”
But you know what? All that wishing and comparing was doing was hurting my heart. It was stealing my joy and making me miss out on the amazing things about my child.
My child may be different, but they are amazing. They are loving, funny, and smart in their own way. They teach me something new every single day, and they show me the world in a way I never could have imagined.
So I’m done with comparing. I’m done with wishing things were different. I’m choosing to focus on the amazing kid I have, and I’m choosing to celebrate their every accomplishment, no matter how small it may seem to others.
Life may not be fair, but love is. And my love for my child is fierce, unconditional, and unending. That’s what matters most.